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Personal & Spiritual Growth

Here is a list of a few concepts from a new book about personal growth and spiritual process that I plan to publish 1n 2023, which covers some of what I teach in numerous workshops and share in my Life Coaching. As the book nears publication, I will post the information here and on my social media pages.

• The seven elements of essence
• Respond rather than react
• Influence rather than control
• Unconditional compassion rather than unconditional love
• We use 90% of our brain to keep us believing we only use 10%
• Embrace rather than comprehend
• Service rather than self-serve
• Understanding rather than judgment
• Embracing our essence rather than following our enculturation
• Lifestyle versus career
• Friendship rather than isolation
• Natural rather than normal
• Power rather than force
• Curiosity rather than fear
• Depth rather than shallow
• Understanding core beliefs rather than simply patterns
• Change rather than resistance
• Listening rather than talking
• Flexibility rather than rigidity
• Imagination rather than willpower
• Open-minded rather than dogma
• Living rather than dying
• Performance rather than trauma/drama
• Embracing rather than surrendering
• Optimism rather than pessimism
• Reverence for life rather than irreverence
• Responsibility rather than avoidance
• Essence rather than ego and personality
• Support rather than dominance
• Planning rather than worry
• Creativity rather than stagnation
• Transcend rather than circumvent

 

How to Survive the Loss of a Love

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Many years ago I had a curious experience. In my private counseling practice in Phoenix, Arizona. I was talking with a young woman who was anxiously sitting on my couch and who had recently experienced loss of a love relationship when it ended. She appeared inconsolable.

In the midst of her sobbing, we both were drawn to a thin paperback book that seemed to leap out of the bookcase several feet away across the room and landed on the floor face down in front of the coffee table by the couch. It was too far to have simply fallen out of the bookcase.

I thought of the significance for a moment as we each gazed at the book and in turn, looked questioningly at each other.

Although I had no idea what the book was I then said, “If I were you I would take that book home and read it.”

She just stared as I got up from my recliner and walked to the book. Intrigued, I picked it up and turned it over to read the cover and then I turned it around so she could read the title, “How to Survive the Loss of a Love.”

Whatever you think caused this specific book to spring out of the bookshelf and land nearly at her feet just when she needed it the most, suspend your judgment and nurture an open mind. Opportunity can happen when you least expect it. Frequently in unexpected ways when you have the courage to embrace it.

Needless to say, she took the book and left. In anticipation, I waited for her return the following week for our next session.

Seven Elements of Essence

NEW March Special. Learn about the Seven Elements of Essence. Find out how to use them. Only $95, from now until March 31, 2014. This is a Life Coaching savings of $80.

This Seven Elements of Essence telephone session guides you in embracing a compassionate, passionate and fulfilling life leading towards your true nature and life path. Learn what elements activate your highest energy and direction. Handle circumstances and situations with greater certainty and ease.

I completed my development of the Seven Elements of Essence after my first visit to the Vietnam Wall Memorial in 1989. I continue to apply these concepts in my coaching. Below is a brief description.

  1. Unconditional Compassion provides insight into others and yourself without a preconceived belief system.
  2. Nonjudgmental offers you the opportunity to experience moments in your life without attachments.
  3. Non self-importance gives you meaning and purpose for simply being, rather than doing.
  4. Vulnerability creates bridges rather than castles with drawbridges and moats.
  5. Patience promotes space and time to reflect.
  6. Presence allows you the means to use your intellect and intuition.
  7. Curiosity brings you the objective perspective balanced with a creative imagination to resolve issues. Einstein said, “I have no special talents….I am only passionately curious.”

When you apply one or more of these elements, you will have powerful tools to use for dramatically changing your life. If you can think of life changes that you desire, these Seven Elements of Essence can help you create wonderful opportunities.

Understand the value of establishing and maintaining balance, influencing instead of controlling, trusting your intuition, responding rather than reacting, and more.

After your personalized Life Coaching session about the Seven Elements of Essence, you will have a deeper understanding of how to embrace personal growth, purpose, spiritual awareness and your authentic self.

I believe that this session answers a number of significant personal questions you may have about your life.

To register for the session, fill out the Contact Information form on my Contact Stephen page.